CHOICE : care in selecting, power in choosing, the best part or preferred option, one’s judgment in positive direction, an appealing decision.
Sounds like a positive thing – doesn’t it.
We as humans are the only creatures on the planet that have free will. God thought it so important that we make our own decisions and choices that he instilled it in us at creation.
From the moment we wake up in the morning until it’s time to retire and go to sleep, we’ll make hundreds of “choices” during the day. In the morning alone, we’ll make choices if we’ll spring out of bed when the alarm goes off or if we’ll just hit the snooze button for a few more minutes of rest. Then we’ll choose on what we will wear, what we will eat for breakfast, if we’ll make our lunch or dine out, and which route we’ll take to work according to the traffic report.
As in life, we all make personal “choices” on who we want to be, what friends we will have, who will be our mate and what field of work we want to take part in. If you agree with me, and I think you do, it’s our prerogative to make these choices according to what will make us happy. We just don’t let life hit us in the face without giving our life some thought in making some of these decisions. We may not always be able to choose our circumstances but we always have the ability to choose how we will respond to those circumstances. It’s not what happens to you that builds character, how you respond will build character or not. I am only responsible for my choices and not for the actions and choices of others.
Each and every day we make a conscious choice on how to live our lives. However, it amazes me how we’ll let life slip on by and let the daily grind, as well as time, take away our focus on what we really want and what makes us happy. Before you know it, years will have passed without taking the vacation we’ve always wanted, gotten the job we’ve always dreamed of, loved those to our heart’s content and spent time with our parents, and loved ones who mean the most to us.
I can honestly say that the source of my problems today and yesterday is and has been me. My expectations, my goals, my agenda, my desires and my choices, or by others not responding to these things as I thought they should. Even when apologizing, I expected to be forgiven, but it is and never was my choice to forgive, that belongs to the person I wronged. The ability to forgive was something I had no control over and therefore was not my responsibility, but when i didn’t get the response I was expecting, I grew angry. I could not make them forgive me, after all their hurt was legitimate, but I expected it to be forgiven. It all boiled down to pride and the need to control.
Life is simply a string of choices and learning to live with the consequences of our choices – good or bad.
Your life is made up of choices. You choose what you want to do, where you will do it, and what type of education will get you there. Some of your choices empower you and others hold you back. Either way, you have power over what you choose in your life. The choices we make says alot about who we are, and all we do is a part of all we are.
The challenges in your life, in most cases, arise not by accident, but from the choices that hold you back.
So why we are so surprised when things go off course, or when we are faced with a major problem in our life?
We do not intentionally make bad choices. We make choices based on the information we have at the time. We weigh our options and believe that our choices will turn out for the best. But what about the choices you are making today that you know are not good for you? Or, when you know in your gut that it’s time to make new choices and you are not? You can change your choices if you want to.
First we have to make Peace With our Past Choices
We’ve all made dreadful choices. It’s part of life. Sometimes, in order to make a good choice, you have to know what it feels like to make a bad one. The consequences of a bad choice can be a good motivator reminding you to not make that choice again. It’s important to make peace with the past choices so you can move forward. By closing the door to your past, a new door can open to a brighter future. This is not always and easy task, due to the guilt and shame associated with our past, but if we can accept responsibility for our choices then we are ready to quit blaming others, accept the consequences and move forward. Don’t let the guilt or shame of your past choices hold you captive, no matter how many wrong choices you have made, believe me I know about bad choices in multiples; it only takes one right choice to change your life.
Secondly look For A Pattern
If your life is not all you think it can be, ask yourself what choices brought to where you are today. Subtract from your thinking everything that other people “did” to you. Subtract your “bad luck.” Focus simply on the choices that you’ve made. Then, look for a pattern in your choices. Identify the recurring theme that holds you back; that propels you into making the choices that do not add to your life
Thirdly you have to decide To Make Better Choices
Until you decide to make better choices, your choices will continue to work against you. Resolving to make better choices is crucial. It is the first step towards having focus and determination. Can you make better choices simply by saying you will make them? Why not? Your thoughts and words are powerful and life changing. The bible clearly states that there is death and life in the power of the tongue. You have to decide to make the right choices for your life, this is simply one thing others cannot do for you.
Most people, in general are good people, who have made some really bad choices in their life that has led them to the place they find themselves. I believe I am basically a good person, a person with flaws, a person who has made bad some horrific choices in my life, but basically a good person. One right choice can undo a lifetime of bad choices; I realize today all I need to do is the next right thing, one decision at a time.
Then start Making Better Choices
Start today with a single act. Stop yourself when you are about to slip into your familiar pattern of bad choices. Recognize the warning signs. If you’re like me, you’ve been through this process several times and now when you are at risk for failure based on prior experiences. Replace that choice with a more positive action. One action leads to another, which leads to another. Before you know it, you are making better choices. The one small choice you make right now, that you have no proof will make a difference, and are afraid to take, is the action that done over time will lead to better choices and a more fulfilling life.
Don’t be afraid to ask For Help
You are not meant to work on your life challenges by yourself. When you find that days, weeks, months, and years are going by and you still have the same problem, make a promise to yourself that you will reach out to someone who can help you. I would not be where I am today, believe me I still have a lot of growing to do, without the help of others. Their time, advice and faith in God to change a person’s heart and in doing so change their desires, is what has encouraged and enable me to make different choices in my life, and how i want it remembered.
You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!