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The Top Five Ways to Ruin Your Children
They are scenes that paint a startling picture of the drug culture’s legacy on American home life: A teenage girl shares her hopes and dreams with her mother—as they binge on methamphetamines. A boy bonds with his father over a marijuana-filled bong.
For the vast majority of families, scenes such as these are hard to fathom. But counselors who deal with teen addicts across the USA say that parents’ complicity has become a significant factor in putting kids on a path to drug dependency.
A new survey of nearly six hundred teens in drug treatment in New York, Texas, Florida, and California indicated that 20 percent have shared drugs other than alcohol with their parents, and that about 5 percent of the teens actually were introduced to drugs—usually marijuana—by their moms or dads.
Citation: Donna Leinwald, USA Today (August 24, 2000), p. 1A
It happened during one of those Rockwellian moments: a grandmother making cookies with her seven-year-old granddaughter. The kind of moment a grandmother wraps around her like a handmade shawl, to keep her warm months later, when the smell of Snicker doodles no longer fills the kitchen, and the child has returned to another time zone.
The little girl, the grandmother noticed, was engrossed in the flour. She had a knife and, with the intensity of a sculptor—a sculptor whose little tongue suggested she was deep in concentration—carefully shaped the fine powder into a pattern of neat, narrow lines.
How cute, the woman remembers thinking. Then the little girl looked up at her. “Look, Grandma,” she said, “this is how Mom and Gary cut their cocaine.”
Citation: Bob Welch, Where Roots Grow Deep (Harvest House, 1999), p. 118
In her new book The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Judith Wallerstein writes about the negative impact divorce has on children:
Children in post divorce families do not, on the whole, look happier, healthier, or better adjusted even if one or both parents are happier.
National studies show that children from divorced and remarried families are more aggressive toward their parents and teachers. They experience more depression, have more learning difficulties, and suffer from more problems with peers than children from intact families. . . .
[Being the child of a divorced family is] feeling sad, lonely, and angry during childhood. It’s traveling on airplanes alone when you’re seven to visit your parent. It’s having no choice about how you spend your time and feeling like a second-class citizen compared with your friends in intact families who have some say about how they spend their weekends and their vacations. It’s wondering whether you’ll have any financial help for college from your college-educated father, given that he has no legal obligation to pay. . . .
It’s reaching adulthood with acute anxiety. Will you ever find a faithful woman to love you? Will you find a man you can trust? . . . Not one of the men or women from divorced families whose lives I report on in this book wanted their children to repeat their childhood experiences. . . . They envied friends who grew up in intact families.
Citation: Judith Wallerstein, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce (Hyperion, 2000); submitted by David Whitney, Annapolis, Maryland
Parents love to have children, and watch them grow, but grow into what? Our society has taken on a huge misconception as to what kind of values they can show their children and expect their children to survive.
The 5 top Ways to Ruin Your Children are:
1. The first way to ruin you child is to try telling him that everything is fine, and not to worry about tomorrow. You should not show him the world through rose colored glasses. He will have to face life without you some day, and then it will be a harsh awakening.
2. Have a cigarette in front of your child. Children learn most of their traits from their parents. What traits do you have that you think might harm your child in the future? Even the simplest thing as smoking in front of them will most likely lead to them smoking too. The same thing with drinking.
3. Get a divorce. This can ruin a child. The after effects have shown to have a negative impact on a child. The child is more aggressive; seems to have more learning difficulties, experiences more depression, and suffer other problems that other children may not face.
4. Make sure you also smoke pot and take cocaine in front of your children. They will want some too.
5. Tell them that they aren’t worth anything. They will believe you.
You will be quite successful if you follow this plan. Million of parents are doing it all over the world. You can see how successful it is just by looking at how full the prisons are.
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