From 1986 to 1990 Frank Reed was held hostage in a Lebanon cell. For months at a time Reed was blindfolded, living in complete darkness, or chained to a wall and kept in absolute silence. On one occasion, he was moved to another room, and, although blindfolded, he could sense others in the room. Yet it was three weeks before he dared peek out to discover he was chained next to Terry Anderson and Tom Sutherland.
Although he was beaten, made ill, and tormented, Reed felt most the lack of anyone caring. He said in an interview with Time, “Nothing I did mattered to anyone. I began to realize how withering it is to exist with not a single expression of caring around me. I learned one overriding fact: caring is a powerful force. If no one cares you are truly alone.”
Have you felt this way? Do you wonder if anyone cares? What follows are a few suggestions to let you know that doing things positive will help you see that others care and most importantly that you care for yourself.
Top 10 Ways to chase the blues away:
1. Get out and visit more of your friends and social contacts. Just being with someone, even if it is a stranger you just met, helps you to feel better. They may sense that you are feeling down, and will find ways to cheer you up. Friends never let friends stay sad.
2. List what you appreciate. Write down all the things you are grateful for. It may seem childish to do this, but this has been proven to be the most productive thing you can do to feel better. I am grateful for spring when the flowers start blooming. I am grateful my grandchildren. I am grateful for having a full tank of gas! I am grateful that you are reading this post!
3. Think of all the good things that happened today. It can be little things like having green lights all the way to work. A special email from a friend. Talking to a neighbor at the mail box. Finding a gas station with the lowest gas prices. (If you do find one let me know where it is!!!) Write the good things down, and keep doing this everyday. You will be amazed how many more good things happen than bad things. It seems that we always dwell on the bad things because they hurt us and stand out more. Time to turn that around!
4. Decide what is more important in your life, material things or things that give you lasting memories. A special trip is in your memories forever. A car or boat runs down after a while, but memories last forever. Go somewhere that you have never been before. Be adventurous. Aloha!!
5. Do you own a favorite DVD, or TV show that is funny? Watch it as many times as you are able to over the weekend. Have a marathon! You can’t help but laugh and cheer up when you see funny scenes on the screen. Animal House is always a good stand-by. How about the Police Academy series?
6. Think of a place where you always feel calm. I feel calm and relaxed when I am at the beach. Oregon has some beautiful coast lines, and the sound of the waves, plus the scenery along the beach are hard to pass up. Just sit on a big rock and listen. Be careful for those seagulls though. They can put a frown back on your face!
7. Do you always see the glass half empty? Do a flip-flop and think of it as half full. Don’t be pessimistic all the time. Always think good things will happen. Instead of thinking you will lose the race, think that you will finish the race. Instead of worrying about what you boss thinks about you, realize that it’s Friday! Instead of worrying about making friends be a friend.
8. Do you have a knack for writing poems or short stories? Have at it!! Writing is great therapy especially in a journal. I leave all my hurts and negative thoughts in my journal. Later I can see how I may have felt that way. You can see your growth as you write too. Writing down thoughts can be a big factor in dumping sad feelings.
9. Go help someone else that is unhappy. This works every time! You can’t feel sad after you have helped someone else to feel good. It is very contagious. Go to that neighbor that thinks they don’t have anyone that cares for them. Call that friend that recently lost their spouse. Hug a child that feels sad that day.
10. Do something special. Go out to lunch with a friend. Ride a bike. Play croquet in the back yard with your children. Just sit and listen to the birds on your patio. I did that once, and the feeling was incredible!! Birds have such a soothing sound and a very beautiful sound by the way. Except for crows.
Use all these ideas to help you get back to the person you know you can be. You are a special person that only you can change. It is time to get rid of those negative thoughts, and replace them with thoughts that will lift you up each day. Start now!!!
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“The only negatives that should develop are in a dark room.”