The Top Five Ways to Stop Letting Negatives Develop

1.     Create a positive environment.


·        Have positive images around you through books that make you feel good.

·        Get a pet that loves you warts and all.

·        Play music you like during the day. (Loud!)


2.     Have selective hearing.


·        Never listen to others that say you can’t do something, or that you are a failure.

·        Turn off your hearing to people who think that everything will go wrong.

·        Never listen to people who gossip.

·        Listen to someone else that needs cheering up.


3.     Write a journal to release your feelings.


·        Write down the positives each day to cheer you up.

·        Write down the negatives to put them away for ever.

·        Decide what caused the positives and negatives.

·        Expand on the positives, and eliminate the negatives.

     (Could be a song here!)


4.     Plan your day around positive events.


·        Go to a movie that has a good theme or one where the bad guy gets it in the end.

·        Take your children to the park. If you don’t have any children take your nephews or nieces. If you don’t have any nephews or nieces, go back and get that pet I was telling you to get, and take him to the park. Find something!!!

·        Go on a day hike with a friend. Smell the roses. Look at the birds. Watch an ant cross the trail. Get very basic with nature.

·        Go on a jog or a fast walk. This is the one area that works the best for me. A fast walk helps me relieve stress, and I have all kinds of time to think while I am walking to help push out all the garbage. My mind is free by the end of the walk.


5.     Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a long time.


·        Share your positive happenings with him. Share what went right today. Let him know that you feel good about yourself because of these events.

·        You might as well unload on him with your negative thoughts too. Go as far as you can to share your inner feelings. The longer he listens the better you feel. Don’t overwhelm him, but use this time to clear out your negative closet.

·        After you have done all of this. Let them know how important they are to you, and how much you appreciate them listening. Offer to be their sounding board anytime they want it. This will make them feel good, and want to help you more another time.


Negatives should only develop in a dark room for a photographer. Turn the light out on the bad things and light up your life with the positives.


Doug Bolton, Freelance Writer, Author: Close Encounters of the Heavenly Kind: Through Bumper Stickers


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10 Ways to Turn That Frown Upside Down.


From 1986 to 1990 Frank Reed was held hostage in a Lebanon cell. For months at a time Reed was blindfolded, living in complete darkness, or chained to a wall and kept in absolute silence. On one occasion, he was moved to another room, and, although blindfolded, he could sense others in the room. Yet it was three weeks before he dared peek out to discover he was chained next to Terry Anderson and Tom Sutherland.


Although he was beaten, made ill, and tormented, Reed felt most the lack of anyone caring. He said in an interview with Time, “Nothing I did mattered to anyone. I began to realize how withering it is to exist with not a single expression of caring around me. I learned one overriding fact: caring is a powerful force. If no one cares you are truly alone.”


Have you felt this way? Do you wonder if anyone cares? What follows are a few suggestions to let you know that doing things positive will help you see that others care and most importantly that you care for yourself.


Top 10 Ways to chase the blues away:



1.     Get out and visit more of your friends and social contacts. Just being with someone, even if it is a stranger you just met, helps you to feel better. They may sense that you are feeling down, and will find ways to cheer you up. Friends never let friends stay sad.


2.     List what you appreciate. Write down all the things you are grateful for. It may seem childish to do this, but this has been proven to be the most productive thing you can do to feel better. I am grateful for spring when the flowers start blooming. I am grateful my grandchildren. I am grateful for having a full tank of gas! I am grateful that you are reading this post!


3.     Think of all the good things that happened today. It can be little things like having green lights all the way to work. A special email from a friend. Talking to a neighbor at the mail box. Finding a gas station with the lowest gas prices. (If you do find one let me know where it is!!!) Write the good things down, and keep doing this everyday. You will be amazed how many more good things happen than bad things. It seems that we always dwell on the bad things because they hurt us and stand out more. Time to turn that around!


4.     Decide what is more important in your life, material things or things that give you lasting memories. A special trip is in your memories forever. A car or boat runs down after a while, but memories last forever. Go somewhere that you have never been before. Be adventurous. Aloha!!


5.     Do you own a favorite DVD, or TV show that is funny? Watch it as many times as you are able to over the weekend. Have a marathon! You can’t help but laugh and cheer up when you see funny scenes on the screen. Animal House is always a good stand-by. How about the Police Academy series?


6.     Think of a place where you always feel calm. I feel calm and relaxed when I am at the beach. Oregon has some beautiful coast lines, and the sound of the waves, plus the scenery along the beach are hard to pass up. Just sit on a big rock and listen. Be careful for those seagulls though. They can put a frown back on your face!


7.     Do you always see the glass half empty? Do a flip-flop and think of it as half full. Don’t be pessimistic all the time. Always think good things will happen. Instead of thinking you will lose the race, think that you will finish the race. Instead of worrying about what you boss thinks about you, realize that it’s Friday! Instead of worrying about making friends be a friend.


8.     Do you have a knack for writing poems or short stories? Have at it!! Writing is great therapy especially in a journal. I leave all my hurts and negative thoughts in my journal. Later I can see how I may have felt that way. You can see your growth as you write too. Writing down thoughts can be a big factor in dumping sad feelings.


9.     Go help someone else that is unhappy. This works every time! You can’t feel sad after you have helped someone else to feel good. It is very contagious. Go to that neighbor that thinks they don’t have anyone that cares for them. Call that friend that recently lost their spouse. Hug a child that feels sad that day.


10.          Do something special. Go out to lunch with a friend. Ride a bike. Play croquet in the back yard with your children. Just sit and listen to the birds on your patio. I did that once, and the feeling was incredible!! Birds have such a soothing sound and a very beautiful sound by the way. Except for crows.


Use all these ideas to help you get back to the person you know you can be. You are a special person that only you can change. It is time to get rid of those negative thoughts, and replace them with thoughts that will lift you up each day. Start now!!!


Doug Bolton




* Check out the new website below. It has a newsletter that will be sent out to subscribers.  It also has information on a new book I am writing called, Close Encounters of the Heavenly Kind: Through Bumper Stickers. The book is full of help on battling the mental afflictions that all of us face.  Subscribe to that site, and you will receive excerpts from the book on a weekly/monthly basis, free.


“The only negatives that should develop are in a dark room.”



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You will not get hives from making a comment!!!

One of the frustrations I am finding with my two sites is that I haven’t received any comments. Google Analytic shows that I have 40 to 50 hits with people browsing on both sites, but not one comment.

I would like you to do the following things.

  1. Tell Others about this site and They need to be reaching out to others that may be looking for relief from their afflictions.
  2. Make some comments. You can have a tremendous impact on these sites by sharing your hurts, and how you conquered them. You have to register to make comments on this site. This is just to screen for spam.
  3. You do not have to put your real name, except when you register. People make up names all the time when they comment. I like “Moon Doggie,” I was called that for a while when I was in high school. I felt like I was a cool surfer guy, but I never had been surfing.
  4. Don’t be bashful. That is my job. If you have visited my other site, you saw that I have prizes now for doing certain things. One of them is the having best comment of the month/week. There has to be a certain amount of comments before I will start the give aways for that.
  5. I GAVE AWAY MY FIRST PRIZE! You have to go to  to find what was given, and why it was given.  
  6. I will also do give prizes on this site. After I start getting enough comments, I will be giving away prizes for the best comment of the month/week. I have a stack of very good books that I will be giving away, and many of them are autographed. I will create other fun prizes too.

Don’t leave me in cyber space alone. It is cold and dark out here!! Let me feel the warmth, or even your displeasure over what has been written. (See the rules of commenting before you write.)

Make sure you tell others about this site and, The other site is an author site, where I will be talking about my new book, Close Encounters of the Heavenly Kind: Through Bumper Stickers. This book has an interesting title, but the reading is even more interesting. The discussion will start out about getting rid of all of your mental afflicitions. It then progresses until you will be singing, “Free! Free at last!” (Well, maybe not that dramatic.) It does help you progress to the point that you DO have the ABILITY to be free of all your inner demons that have been haunting you. Go to my site,, and start getting excerpts from the book, Close Encounters of the Heavenly Kind: Through Bumpers Stickers. You have to subscribe to receive excerpts from the book in my new newsletter. You can subscribe by going to, and clicking on the “Newsletter tab.” There is a subscription form there. I have to have enough subscribers to send out a full newsletter.

I am excited that Constant Contact, will be my provider for sending out the newsletter. They are the top newsletter emailing company in the world. (In my opinion.)

If you will bring in a lot of new people, and have them subcribe to, I will also be giving out prizes for the people that bring in the most new subscribers. The prizes for that will be on a higher level. You will have go to the site to see more about that.



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Rules for posting



                   Rules for Posting


I am a newbie at getting comments from my “fans,” but I do have some rules that seem rather obvious, and I need to have you read them:


1.     The first time you post a comment, WordPress will hold it until I have approved it. It may mark it as spam, but I will be checking it the day it comes in, and I will decide if you are a good guy, or bad guy depending on what I have read.

2.     If your post is accepted by me once, WordPress will show your comments immediately. If you use a lot of “bad,” words I have listed to catch, it will probably be listed as spam. I love spam, I was raised on it, but computer spam gives me indigestion.

3.     If you are just making a comment to promote your site, and you have a link, it is automatically held for moderation, even if you have done a post before. If it is not an ad then I will be OK with it. If it is adios!

4.     A personal attack on any of my blog readers will get extremely fast action from me. I will either erase all the bad words, or send it packing. If I get many posts from the same person that attacks, you also will be sent packing. You have the capability of speaking nicely and still get your point across.                                                                 

5.     You can attack me all you want within the guidelines of using proper words. That is what I can expect by being a public figure. You do not need to get rude or nasty. You can tell me to take a hike, but not to put it where the sun doesn’t shine. (I think you get the picture). Be aware that some of my regular blog readers may beg to differ with you and that is the price YOU pay.

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