1. Create a positive environment.
· Have positive images around you through books that make you feel good.
· Get a pet that loves you warts and all.
· Play music you like during the day. (Loud!)
2. Have selective hearing.
· Never listen to others that say you can’t do something, or that you are a failure.
· Turn off your hearing to people who think that everything will go wrong.
· Never listen to people who gossip.
· Listen to someone else that needs cheering up.
3. Write a journal to release your feelings.
· Write down the positives each day to cheer you up.
· Write down the negatives to put them away for ever.
· Decide what caused the positives and negatives.
· Expand on the positives, and eliminate the negatives.
(Could be a song here!)
4. Plan your day around positive events.
· Go to a movie that has a good theme or one where the bad guy gets it in the end.
· Take your children to the park. If you don’t have any children take your nephews or nieces. If you don’t have any nephews or nieces, go back and get that pet I was telling you to get, and take him to the park. Find something!!!
· Go on a day hike with a friend. Smell the roses. Look at the birds. Watch an ant cross the trail. Get very basic with nature.
· Go on a jog or a fast walk. This is the one area that works the best for me. A fast walk helps me relieve stress, and I have all kinds of time to think while I am walking to help push out all the garbage. My mind is free by the end of the walk.
5. Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a long time.
· Share your positive happenings with him. Share what went right today. Let him know that you feel good about yourself because of these events.
· You might as well unload on him with your negative thoughts too. Go as far as you can to share your inner feelings. The longer he listens the better you feel. Don’t overwhelm him, but use this time to clear out your negative closet.
· After you have done all of this. Let them know how important they are to you, and how much you appreciate them listening. Offer to be their sounding board anytime they want it. This will make them feel good, and want to help you more another time.
Negatives should only develop in a dark room for a photographer. Turn the light out on the bad things and light up your life with the positives.
Doug Bolton, Freelance Writer, Author: Close Encounters of the Heavenly Kind: Through Bumper Stickers
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