How Do You Measure A Mom?

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How Do You Measure a Mom?

Measure defined means a unit or standard of measurement; the extent, dimensions, quantity, of something; any standard of comparison, estimation, or judgment; and so on. Some of the synonyms are model, example, scope, portion, scale, test, pattern, and gauge.

So, taking that into consideration, how do you measure a mother?

*by how tall she is?

*by the size of her brain?

*by the size of her gloves?

*by the size of her shoes?

Well, yes and no. As Christians, we usually use the ideal woman (or wife) description in Proverbs 31 as the standard of measurement. Her worth being far above rubies, so it says. In addition, verses 28-29 tell us:

Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words: “There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!” (TLB)

But how do you measure that?

*By their love for her in the eyes of her family, you can measure how tall she is.

*By the scope of her thoughts, words, and prayers, you can measure the size of her brain.

*By the extent of her giving and doing for her children, you can measure the size of her gloves.

*By where and how she walks, you can measure the size of her shoes.

I guess if we went by that, a valuable mom would then be very tall, have a very large head, and have large hands and feet. Well, I know that sounds silly. But not if you apply it spiritually.

I love this quote: “The measure of a woman’s character is not what she gets from her ancestors, but what she leaves her descendants.” ~ unknown

As a mother, how large am I, spiritually that is? How do I measure up to all this? How do I leave my daughter and my sons those values and character that I desire them to have? How do I make my husband and family proud of me and not bring shame to them? How am I an example to others?

To be and do all that is necessary, my life must mirror one pattern, one example, one standard…Jesus!

Other than the character traits of Proverbs 31, Paul listed several other traits in his letter to Titus.

The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5 NKJV)

All this, plus grace, strength, and faith, was passed on to me by my mother and my grandmother…so what am I leaving to my children? How do they see me? How do others see me? How am I being measured?

Not all mothers can stand the scrutiny of the ideal mother description. Not every mother will be “the best of them all.” Many come from backgrounds that did not supply the best conditions for learning to be a great mom. Others lack the communication skills to relate properly with their children. Therefore, trusting in the Lord becomes essential.

Proverbs 31 is the survey for which every mother should self-analyze herself. Is she following the Lord in all she does? We all as mothers fall short. However, having the desire in a mother’s heart to show love and care to her children is the beginning.

If you are a mother reading this, what are you passing on to your children? How do others measure you?

Mother’s Day blessings…


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Adversity Can Hit Suddenly

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Do you always rise to the occasion when adversity hits you right right between the eyes?

You lose your job. A loved one passes away. Your children disappoint you with their actions. You are in a tough divorce situation. It goes on and on.

I am sure you could make your own list of adversity that has knocked at your door.

God knows we are facing adversity. He knows the hurt and pain we are facing.

God is a master designer, and He allows adversities into our everyday lives to see if we can jump over them properly.

Psalm 18:29 says, “By my God I can leap over a wall.”

God will never shield you from the trials.

First Peter 4:12 says, “Beloved do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you…”

Rise up to what ever occasion that comes along. Do what the trial asks of you. It doesn’t matter how much it hurts as long as it gives God the opportunity to manifest the life of Jesus in your body.

We are here on earth to submit to His will so that He may work through us what He wants. Once we realize this, H e will make us broken bread and poured-out wine with which to nourish others.

Do I look forward to the trials and storms? Of course not. I would rather avoid them, but if God has chosen me to bear the weight of some adversity, I am going to do my very best to fight through that adversity, and allow it to help others who may be going through the same thing.

You can do the same thing. Use the trials of life to grow and help others. Use them to show others how to remain strong, and be an even stronger person after they conquer their own adversity.


You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!



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If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.” Mark 9:42

Parents and other adults in authority are morally responsible to protect children. If grown people neglect or excuse their righteous role it is an offense that Jesus does not take lightly. This faithless infraction brings out an intense consequence that is worse than being drowned in the depths of the sea. Indeed, watchfulness over little ones is huge to God.

It is worse than scandalous for those who uplift the name of Christ to use their position of influence to inflict emotional, physical, spiritual or sexual abuse on children. A warped affection causes hurt to an adolescent’s heart that may take a lifetime to heal. Offenders invite judgment in this life and the life to come that no man or woman can conceive. Thus, look out for the children that come into your life—look for ways to give them life.

“Pharaoh’s daughter said to her, “Take this baby and nurse him for me, and I will pay you.” So the woman took the baby and nursed him. When the child grew older, she took him to Pharaoh’s daughter and he became her son. She named him Moses, saying, “I drew him out of the water” (Exodus 2:9-10).

Are you cautious with whom you leave your child? Or are you aware of another child who may be at risk and needs you as an advocate to step up to the authorities on their behalf? The sin of omission can cause more harm than the sin of commission. Non-action encourages offenders to extend their predatory practices to other innocent children.

Children are a gift from Almighty God in need of care by affectionate adults. Their hearts are tender for truth and their minds are moist and ready to be molded by men and women with moral authority. Pray over your circle of influence: children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, neighbors, a classmate of your child, a foster child or an orphan. Become the answer to their prayers and protect a little one with your loving presence. Love protects.

It [love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (1 Corinthians 13:7).

Protection is a prerequisite for being a responsible parent. It is implied in the job description of any adult with influence over little ones. You are Christ’s representative who safeguards, shields, defends, shelters, keeps and guards God’s children. Your role is to lead a child into the loving arms of Jesus and to avoid sinful stumbling. You are a child’s opportunity to see Christ in flesh and blood. So, let them see Jesus in you.

“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear Him, and His righteousness with their children’s children” (Psalm 103:17)

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What if you Had a Pity Party and no one Came?

What are you looking for?

What is your future hope?

What are you dreaming about?

How often do you let the world disappoint you?

Many people wonder about the  answers to these questions.  They go to work, and put in there time. They come home, and turn on the TV, and plant themselves on the couch. Many have a dream, but they don’t think they are capable of doing it.

We all have a dream that we have been clinging to. What is your dream? Do you want to be a business owner that has a business that reaches out and helps others? How about a type of job that you can work at home and be with your children? Maybe a job that is actually fun, rewarding, and pays good.

I would guess most of you would be excited about these jobs, but what if God has other plans for you? He may want you to be a servant to others like your thought of a business that reaches out to others, but the job He as in mind is to go to another country and be a missionary.

He may have a opening in a rehab center for addicts that he thinks you would do well at.

God provides doors for us, but we don’t always open them. We may ignore His call, and choose our own path.

We all with like to have riches, and a good living, but sometimes it doesn’t deliver what it is supposed to. I have read about every wealthy people that are very sad. How could that be? They have all the money they need to buy happiness. It is because they have a void. They are missing something. They don’t have the love of God, and they a very alone because they don’t know about His loving ways.

I know there are some of you who are in hard times. You amy have lost your job. You may be behind in your house payments. You may not have any health insurance. These are hard to deal with. I feel your pain, and I pray for all those who are hurting in this respect.

So, either rich or poor what can we do to fulfill our dreams, and have some hope?

Think on this:

  • Money can only buy “things.” It can’t buy happiness.
  • It is always darkest just before the dawn of a new day.
  • Never give up! Never let Satan knock you down, and make you feel unworthy. That is just where he wants you.
  • Take God’s hand and let Him lead you through the storms of life. He feels your pain. He has felt His own pain when His only Son was dying on the cross.
  • Get up off of that couch, and look to the future. Look for the hope that God already knows you have. He has a plan for you, and with His help you can do some life changing projects for others.

Don’t let the world pull you down like a huge magnet. Life is tough enough without you allowing it to get the best of you through your pity parties.

Think of what you would really want to do and just go for it. God will help you win the race, and when you do, your whole outlook will grow tremendously.


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