Reality Minus Expectations = Esteem

We are so  honored to be with you each day sharing hope. Our outreach has grown at a tremendous pace. We are averaging over 100 new subscribers a day. We just past 102,600 in followers. That’s because people are searching for hope and we provide it.

We are starting a new promotion. The person who is our 105,000 will wins some nice prizes. It goes very fast so don’t miss out. 

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It reaches out the military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides every day. That is almost one every hour. We need to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book. Look for updates here.

+ Update! The book has been sent to my editor this week. Now I wait and see how many red marks she will have in it. 🙂 

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Have you fallen into the trap of high expectations, and feel sad because you can’t achieve them? You aren’t alone. Too many people are on the same boat with you.

The neighbor has a new boat; now you want one. Mary has a better job, now you want a better job. You saw a guy drive by in a souped up hot rod, and now you want one.

It can go on and on. We seem to always want more than we have. We expect to be recognized as the most successful person in the neighborhood.

What this leads to is disappointments, depression, anxiety, etc. We have to face reality, and realize that maybe we can’t have that boat, job, or car that the other people have.

What we need to do is accept the spot where we are, and live a good life, of serving God to our fullest.

If we really live with that in mind that leads us to esteem. People see us as we are, and accept us as we are. They look up to us, because we aren’t trying to climb over people to get where we want to go.

So, Reality, (The way we are) compared to expectations, (Where we want to be) should look like this math problem solver.

Reality – Expectations = esteem. Simple math. Just face reality, and quite trying to reach such high expectations, and your esteem will be much higher.

If you are wallowing in the muck and mire, because you feel you are a failure. It may be because you expectations are above your reality that is right for you.

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give  up!

 

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You’ve Come a Long Way Baby!

We are so  honored to be with you each day sharing hope. Our outreach has grown at a tremendous pace. We just past 94,990 in followers. That’s because people are searching for hope and we provide it.

We have a promotion going with prizes. The person who is our 95,000 follower will receive two nice prizes, which we will not name. (This is called a hook in writing.) The number of followers are rising fast. We are down to our last 100 before we have a winner! We are averaging close to 50 new subscribers each day. WE WILL HAVE A WINNER SOMETIME TODAY, so don’t hesitate! Click on the icon right after the title of this post to subscribe to be eligible for the prizes. 

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It will be reaching out the many military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and the many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides every day. That is almost one every hour. Doug wants to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book. Doug Is also seeking military who would be willing to do an interview. It will be part of the book. Sharing by actual soldiers will help many others. Doug just interviewed a WWII veteran. Fascinating! Look for updates here.

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It is so exciting to see where we have come in the last eight years. In 2009 when I first started this blog, not knowing what end was up, I was ecstatic if a got just one new subscriber a day, and now we average 50 a day.

It took a lot of learning on my part on how to write a good post. I had some pretty hilarious ones at the beginning. My proofreading couldn’t prove anything. My thoughts were about my, day and what I had for breakfast, much like you see on Facebook. I thought that was cool, and it wasn’t.

I learned that I needed to talk to my readers. I needed to share with them my hurts; my disappointments; and my frustrations. That is what they really needed to hear. They came back, because they were on the same ride I was. They too have disappointments, hurts, and frustrations.

Some of you have been with me for all of those eight years. Thank you so much for that. We have both grown a lot through those years, don’t you think?

I am so honored to know that my posts may be helping someone in need.

If you are in dire straits. If you are not sure if you even want to get out of bed each day to face the world. If your world has turned into a raging storm, then stay with me. Come back and let’s talk. I have been through many storms in my life, and I know how hard it is.

If we walk the path together, we should be able to help each other.

God is my strength, and my fortress.

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!

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It’s Great When Loved Ones Care for U

We have a winner! We past 86,000. The winner was notified, and we have started a new promotion. The next winner will be the person who is our 90,000th subscriber. As you found out here, it goes very fast. We average over 50 new subscribers a day. We will get there pretty fast. We just passed 86,775.

If you haven’t already subscribed please do by clicking on the icon right after the title of this post.

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, has written a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It will be reaching out the many military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, and the many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides ever day. That is almost one every hour. Doug wants to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book.

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Have you had one of those days? You wake up in the morning and the sunrise is beautiful. You are think that this will be a great day. Then on the horizon you start to see small clouds coming. They don’t look like much, but an hour later they are starting to turn dark and many more of them. Not much longer after that the storm hits, and you wonder what happened to that beautiful day.

You and I face that often. we think life is great, and then something happens to darken our path. It could be that pink slip you received at work saying you are laid off. It could be that doctors report that doesn’t look good. It may even be a loss of a loved one unexpectedly.

I have faced many storms in my life. I have shared many of them with you in the past. I am not here to cry on your shoulder. I am here to say, I know your pain. I know your disappointment. I know the moments that tear at your heart.

One thing we do is to know that people care.

I just had something happen a few minutes ago. I am recovering from a broken back. It has been a very slow and painful path I have been on.

I was just getting up from the couch after reading the newspaper, when there was a very light knock at the door. I opened the door, and Ran, the father of my daughter-in-law, stepped in and gave me a very carefully light hug. He knew what I was going through.

He didn’t stay more than five minutes. He just came to give me support. His vehicle was still running. He just stopped long enough to brighten my day.

Having love ones who care that much for us helps us through the storms. Having someone who cares enough to take time to help, lets us know we do count in this world. It helps me to have hope in a not so friendly world.

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up! 

 

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Do You Sit in a Crowded Room Alone?

We have a winner! We past 83,000. The winner was notified, and we have started a new promotion. The next winner will be the person who is our 86,000th subscriber. As you found out here, it goes very fast. We average over 50 new subscribers a day. We just passed 85,450.

If you haven’t already subscribed please do by clicking on the icon right after the title of this post.

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, has written a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It will be reaching out the many military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, and the many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides ever day. That is almost one every hour. Doug wants to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book.

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I was sitting in a mall one day waiting for my wife to finish shopping. I did some people watching as I waited. It is very revealing to see the looks on some of their faces. Some stared ahead as they walked, seemingly not seeing anything. They just plodded along going somewhere they weren’t sure of.

Others just sat and looked straight ahead. They acted as if they had gone to another dimension to get away.

Yes, there were those that seemed very happy and were laughing and enjoying those around them, but I also saw the lost and lonely hiding in plain sight.

Do you feel like you are in a crowded room, but feel alone? Does it seem like people are looking right through you and don’t even know you are there.?

You aren’t alone. Many people feel that way. Too many of them are deeply depressed, and feel alone just like you do.

I have been there myself at one point in my life. I was surrounded by family. I had many friends who liked me, and yet I felt isolated. I felt separated from the rest of the world.

It is called depression. It is the hidden demon who lives within many of us. We seem to think we are Ok, and yet we would rather crawl in a hole and be left alone at times. Other times we scream for someone to hold us and make us feel  wanted.

Let me make one thing perfectly clear. You are never alone! God is always by your side. He is always holding your hand when you are depressed. He is always happy with you when things are going good for you.

  • He loves you!
  • He made you in His own image.
  • He will take on all of your burdens, hurts, and disappointments onto Himself, and free you of anxiety, self-doubt, and depression that you have to carry everyday.

This will allow you to take in a fresh breath. It will let you know that you can overcome anything with God on your side. Just cling to His promises, and you will  feel wanted, loved, and important in this not so friendly world.

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!

 

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