We Have Many Hopes That Never Happen

We are so  honored to be with you each day sharing hope. Our outreach has grown at a tremendous pace. We are averaging over 100 new subscribers a day. We just past 103,000 in followers. That’s because people are searching for hope and we provide it.

We are in a new promotion. The person who is our 105,000 will wins some nice prizes. It goes very fast so don’t miss out. 

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It reaches out the military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides every day. That is almost one every hour. We need to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more updates about the new book. 

+ Update! The book has been sent to my editor this week. Now I wait and see how many red marks she will have in it. 🙂

There will be some incredible interviews with veterans in this book. Up to twenty different veterans agreed to let me ask them some very personal questions. Some answers will have you in tears.  

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Today is Easter. The most important day of the year. It is the day that Jesus rose from the dead and gave us hope.

Speaking of hope…we hope all the time. We hope for a better job. We hope for a better marriage. We hope we will pass the college test. We hope to find a job.

Hope is a good four letter word that we cling to. We need hope. We need to think everything will come out OK.

Yet, we mope and whine that nothing is going our way. We want more. We want perfection in our lives.

Now, switch your thinking and think of what they were doing to Jesus on that cross. He was near death, and yet he still said, Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing!

He still loved the people very much. He still wanted them to be happy and prosper. He died a horrible death that the Romans never allowed to happen to their own people. It was too gruesome.

Now, back to your own needs. Are you needs so important, that you forget about what Jesus has done for you? Is your, so called, pain because you feel alone, or that God has left you?

Never, ever, forget what Easter is all about. It is about HOPE! It is about having a way to have eternal life, because of one man’s sacrifice for you.

Yes, we all would like a better life. Yes, some of our hope is selfish. We just need to take inventory of our lives, and see if our hope is in Jesus, or is it in ourselves, and us finding ways to survive in this world alone.

Heard a quote at church today, Jesus will draw near you during your doubts, but He doesn’t want to leave you there. 

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!

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Trouble Can Lead to Hope

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It will be reaching out the many military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and the many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides ever day. That is almost one every hour. Doug wants to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book. Doug Is also seeking military who would be willing to do an interview. It will be part of the book. Sharing by actual soldiers will help many others. Look for updates here.

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The value of trouble is that it can lead to hope.

You are probably saying, “What??? I try to stay away from trouble and you are telling me it can be a good thing?”

Yes I am.

There are many forms of trouble. It might be a car that isn’t working and you need to get to work. It could be that doctor’s appointment you don’t want to go to. You may have a broken relationship. It might even mean a lost love one.

All of these sound like big trouble, right?

I have faced all of the troubles mentioned.

When I was a young dad we had a very old car, because we couldn’t afford anything else. (It is called early marriage folks.) One day I went to the car and turned the key. Nothing. Not even a clicking noise. The battery was dead. I had to call work and tell them I would be late. That didn’t go over well, since I was taking the place of someone who wanted to go at Safeway, where I worked.

I have had many doctor’s appointments that I dreaded. Since 2004, I have had six major surgeries. One of them, I was seeing my primary doctor and he had me doing a stress test. I was about half way through and he asked me if I could do another minute, I said sure, even though I was panting. One second later he yelled to the nurse, “Help me get him to that gurney, and give him some nitroglycerin fast.” I was close to having a heart attack. The next day in the hospital more bad news. A heart surgeon came in and said I had four blocked arteries in my heart, and he had to do surgery that day, because my heart is getting weaker. The surgery went well, and I am still here doing posts.

I an saddened to say that I have been divorced. I look back to that time, and I wish that I would have done a different path, but I didn’t. My previous wife and I are now very good friends, but that doesn’t clear up my guilt. I should have tried harder to save the marriage.

Four years ago my mother passed away. My dad died in 2001. Parents passing seems to be a natural process that we all have to face, but losing my mother was extremely hard. She lived to 95 years old, and she was so much a part of our family that even though we knew she was slipping, I was devastated when she passed.

That is a lot of trouble to face, but I look back at each one of those times, and I remember I grew a lot from each situation. I made sure my car was in good working order at all times, to avoid problems there again.

I live with each passing new ailment with a positive attitude. People marvel on how I am so up beat while is am down physically.

The divorce was very hard, and it taught me so much. I was very careful about rushing in to  another relationship. The wait was worth it. I have been married 28 years to the most perfect person on the planet for  me.

I grew a lot from facing my mother’s death. I now put life in a new perspective. We need to be thankful for each and everyday we have and enjoy them.

If you are facing trouble, my strong advice is to turn your troubles over to God. I can’t imagine facing this world without God at my side, helping me through the storms and trials. He is my fortress.

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!

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People Don’t Understand me-PTSD

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The post tonight will be a little long. It is a difficult subject to write about, but PTSD affects so many military and veterans that I felt we needed to address it. Let others know about this post that you think may be struggling with this affliction.

We all know that great and satisfying, marriages are possible. What about those who face PTSD (Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, in their marriage?

People with PTSD may affect many more than just their spouses. It could be the parents, children, friends, and co-workers.

The MAYO clinic’s definition of PTSD is, “A mental condition that is triggered by a terrifying event.”

It is extremely important to stress that people who struggle with PTSD are not crazy, weak, a failure, or even a bad person. They are looking for help just like the rest of us.

Some of the symptoms of PTSD are:

  1. Reliving the event. They have nightmares. They have flashbacks. Seeing or smelling something, which is called a trigger, may cause them to relive the event.
  2. They may avoid situations, and places that remind them of the event. They may avoid large crowds, and may not want to drive because the event could have been a bombing of their convoy.
  3. There may be a change in beliefs and feelings. The way they think about others may change. They may not have as many positive or loving feelings toward other people. They may not be able to talk about the traumatic event. They may feel no one can be trusted.
  4. They may feel keyed up all the time. This leads to having a hard time sleeping, concentrating, and they may be startled by loud noises or a surprise. (Please remember this when you are shooting off your fireworks on the 4th of July.)

Some spouses may end up with many of the same symptoms. They Go through the trenches with their spouse.

I read an article in Guide Posts Magazine about a wife who started having the same symptoms as her husband who was battling PTSD. A family with PTSD in it  can be pulled into the muck and mire, just like a family who have one of their own battling drugs or alcohol.

Wouldn’t it be great to say, “Take two aspirin and see me in the morning,” and the PTSD would be all gone? The sad truth is that the veteran with PTSD may never totally get over it. But the people involved can learn to deal with it; to handle it better. They can do this and still have a good marriage.

Welby O’Brien suggested in her wonderful book, Love our Vets: Restoring Hope for Families of Veterans with PTSD:

(You can find her book on Amazon.)

  • Accept that there is no quick or easy fix.
  • Keep an open mind, but proceed with open eyes.
  • Be willing to do some hard or uncomfortable work.
  • Connect regularly to a good support group.
  • Stay current on PTSD therapies, resources and developments.
  • Surround yourself with people who care, and hold tight to those you love.

Looking at Welby’s list I see a common thread that is critical to the success for a person with PTSD. It is imperative to have good support from others in the family. There is a dire need to get help for the PTSD victim through counseling and therapy. It is crucial that those around the PTSD veteran stand strong behind them and urge the veteran to seek as much help as needed to improve their life to a point that they can exist in normal situations.

In closing. I can’t begin to claim I know what a person battling PTSD is going through. I do know if they seek help they can live a much better life. Never try to face this world alone. Don’t hid and let the dark side creep into your space. Get the help you need and let God give you comfort through His word. I have used the Bible many times to help me through a crisis.

Think about this:

Isn’t it interesting how hard it is to seek help, and yet we feel so much better when we do?

Remember:

You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up! 

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Help Stop Suicide in the Military!

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Why is this happening? We provide daily words of encouragement and hope. Many of you come here to find help with anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, self-doubt, hopelessness and the many other usual suspects.

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I am n the middle of writing a new book called, Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.

There are 22 soldiers, or veterans that end their own lives every day. That is almost one every hour. This saddens me a great deal. That is more deaths than have happened in Afghanistan and Iraq combined in the last year.

The book will be reaching out to all who have some military connections. It will cover the problems with deployment, struggling with PTSD, The spouses left behind, domestic violence in marriages, addictions, facing a death of a loved one, where to get help, and many other of the usual suspects.

My goal is not to make money with this venture. It is to help just one soldier and show him ways to survive without ending his/her life.

If you are one of the millions who have served, thank you for your service. I am a veteran, and served in Korea. I know the mental battles you have gone through.  I have battled loneliness, depression,  and self-doubt. I have faced the fear of the battle.

This post is very unusual in that I am not talking about ways to cope. I am talking about putting together a book that will help as many as possible, and show them ways to have a productive and happy life after their service.

If you are battling anxiety, fear, failure, depression, addictions, rejection, self-doubt, and hopelessness. If you feel alone, forsaken, and unloved. This will be the book for you. This will show possible solutions on how to overcome the most dreaded storms of your life.

I will not be plugging the book like this often. I just wanted to share with those connected to the military that help is on the way.

BTW… this same  book could be helpful for anyone who is going through all the afflictions I mentioned above. It is directed at the military, but the principles are the same for everyone.

Don’t let this cold world get you down. Never give up to the dark side that tries to tell you that you are worthless.

You are a special person. You are loved by God. He cares for you. He made you in His own image. If He went that far for you, don’t you think He will always be there for you?

Remember:

Yu are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all….never, ever, give up!

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