Reality Minus Expectations = Esteem

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It reaches out the military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides every day. That is almost one every hour. We need to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more details about the new book. Look for updates here.

+ Update! The book has been sent to my editor this week. Now I wait and see how many red marks she will have in it. 🙂 


Have you fallen into the trap of high expectations, and feel sad because you can’t achieve them? You aren’t alone. Too many people are on the same boat with you.

The neighbor has a new boat; now you want one. Mary has a better job, now you want a better job. You saw a guy drive by in a souped up hot rod, and now you want one.

It can go on and on. We seem to always want more than we have. We expect to be recognized as the most successful person in the neighborhood.

What this leads to is disappointments, depression, anxiety, etc. We have to face reality, and realize that maybe we can’t have that boat, job, or car that the other people have.

What we need to do is accept the spot where we are, and live a good life, of serving God to our fullest.

If we really live with that in mind that leads us to esteem. People see us as we are, and accept us as we are. They look up to us, because we aren’t trying to climb over people to get where we want to go.

So, Reality, (The way we are) compared to expectations, (Where we want to be) should look like this math problem solver.

Reality – Expectations = esteem. Simple math. Just face reality, and quite trying to reach such high expectations, and your esteem will be much higher.

If you are wallowing in the muck and mire, because you feel you are a failure. It may be because you expectations are above your reality that is right for you.


You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give  up!


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I Didn’t Need a Reason to Die, I Needed A Reason not to

With God on our Side, Who can be Against us?

I have been to the mountain. I have climbed the path of destruction. I was at the end of my rope and it was unraveled. I was ready to check out of this hotel called earth.

That was March of 2001. I was drowning in the muck and mire, of self-pity. I was having weekly pity parties and inviting all my friends.

Why am I here today? What stopped me from checking out?

It was a close encounter with God. He was with me on March 31st, 2001. I didn’t think so, but I cried out to Him, ” I can’t take this anymore.”  He answered my prayer with a calmness I had not felt before or since that moment. It was as if He was saying, “It is about time you came back to Me, now let Me carry you the rest of the way.”

I didn’t have a real father relationship here on earth. My dad had remarried, and was busy with his new family. My brother and I didn’t see him much.

I went through most of my adolescent years with out a father image in my life. I had uncles who loved me and cared, but none on a daily basis.

This gave me a very low self attitude about myself. I was ravaged with self-doubt, depression, anxiety, fear of failure, and even hopelessness.

In 2001, God let me know He was my heavenly Father, and He loved me very much. I was at peace knowing I finally has someone to turn to.

How about you? Have you has a rough road to travel? Has your love channel disappeared? Has your earthly father ot mother disbanded you? I feel for you. I have been in those trenches with you. I have felt rejection, and felt unloved.

I had a very loving mother, but I need a father image. God stepped in and provided that for me. He can do that for you too.

Speaking of images. God made you in His own image. Why would he do that if He didn’t care for you? God doesn’t make any mistakes, and He made you. He has a plan for each and every person in the world.

Look for you own signs of hope, which is the theme of this blog. We reach out to all of you who suffer from the same mental afflictions that we have faced. We have been there with you. We know your pain.   

God says, “Be still and know I am God.” I think He means it is time to stop the pity parties, and start knowing that each of us can do what ever we want with God on our side.

With God on our side, who can be against us?

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