How Do You Measure A Mom?

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Doug Bolton, the founder of Signs of Hope, is writing  a new book, “Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.” It reaches out the military and veterans who may be battling anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, rejections, PTSD, and many other usual suspects. There are 22 military connected suicides every day. That is almost one every hour. We need to help stop those statistics. Be looking for more updates about the new book. 


+ Update! The book has been sent to my editor recently. Now I wait and see how many red marks she will have in it. 🙂

There will be some incredible interviews with veterans in this book. Up to twenty different veterans agreed to let me ask them some very personal questions. Some answers will have you in tears.  Some are actually humorous. 



How Do You Measure a Mom?

Measure defined means a unit or standard of measurement; the extent, dimensions, quantity, of something; any standard of comparison, estimation, or judgment; and so on. Some of the synonyms are model, example, scope, portion, scale, test, pattern, and gauge.

So, taking that into consideration, how do you measure a mother?

*by how tall she is?

*by the size of her brain?

*by the size of her gloves?

*by the size of her shoes?

Well, yes and no. As Christians, we usually use the ideal woman (or wife) description in Proverbs 31 as the standard of measurement. Her worth being far above rubies, so it says. In addition, verses 28-29 tell us:

Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words: “There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!” (TLB)

But how do you measure that?

*By their love for her in the eyes of her family, you can measure how tall she is.

*By the scope of her thoughts, words, and prayers, you can measure the size of her brain.

*By the extent of her giving and doing for her children, you can measure the size of her gloves.

*By where and how she walks, you can measure the size of her shoes.

I guess if we went by that, a valuable mom would then be very tall, have a very large head, and have large hands and feet. Well, I know that sounds silly. But not if you apply it spiritually.

I love this quote: “The measure of a woman’s character is not what she gets from her ancestors, but what she leaves her descendants.” ~ unknown

As a mother, how large am I, spiritually that is? How do I measure up to all this? How do I leave my daughter and my sons those values and character that I desire them to have? How do I make my husband and family proud of me and not bring shame to them? How am I an example to others?

To be and do all that is necessary, my life must mirror one pattern, one example, one standard…Jesus!

Other than the character traits of Proverbs 31, Paul listed several other traits in his letter to Titus.

The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5 NKJV)

All this, plus grace, strength, and faith, was passed on to me by my mother and my grandmother…so what am I leaving to my children? How do they see me? How do others see me? How am I being measured?

Not all mothers can stand the scrutiny of the ideal mother description. Not every mother will be “the best of them all.” Many come from backgrounds that did not supply the best conditions for learning to be a great mom. Others lack the communication skills to relate properly with their children. Therefore, trusting in the Lord becomes essential.

Proverbs 31 is the survey for which every mother should self-analyze herself. Is she following the Lord in all she does? We all as mothers fall short. However, having the desire in a mother’s heart to show love and care to her children is the beginning.

If you are a mother reading this, what are you passing on to your children? How do others measure you?

Mother’s Day blessings…


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Why is it so Hard for Someone to be Submissive?

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I posted on Facebook today, and the topic was about submission. I got many interesting comments from people on the subject.

Why is it is so hard for someone to be submissive? Do we have too many desires that stop us from being that way. Do we own too many toys to stop wanting more? Are we buying newer houses, just to keep up with others?

The submission I was referring to on my post was submission to God.

How does the statements above have anything to do with God? Our “Things,” are the reasons we sometimes don’t want to submit to God. We have to give up something when we start obeying Him.

This is too hard for many people, and they would rather put a wall between themselves and God so that they have more, “freedoms.”

The interesting thought is that god never insists on us totally submitting to Him. He gives us the freedom to choose.

People made choices during the time that Jesus was here on earth. They chose to spit in His face, and beat Him. They chose to put Him to death.

What did Jesus say on the cross? “Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing?”

Does this sound like someone that wants to control you? Of course not! The LORD will always love and try to lead us in the right direction, but the final decision is our own. We can deny Him, or submit to Him.

For me and my house, I will serve the LORD.

I suggest that the path you take if you are running the show yourself, may be fun, and exciting, but there is a dead end to this road. If you take the path that God has for you to walk, you not only have eternal life, but you will receive far more blessings than you could ever dream up.

So what path are you on right now? God allows U-turns, and you can always turn around and walk towards the light, and not towards the darkness.

Remember: Never, ever give up!

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Time Will Pass, Will you?

As a teacher, I learned some secrets while teaching in the classroom. I could see the children in the reflection of my computer monitor while I was putting grades in at the back of the room.

I once told  “Johnny” to stop pulling “Mary’s” hair and he looked astonished wondering how I knew he was able to know what he was doing.

One time I as looked at my monitor and I could see the kids looking at the clock to see how much longer they had to wait until recess. They kept doing this every few seconds.

After the school was out for that day, I made a sign that said, “Time will pass, will you?” I put it right under the clock. The next morning the kids came and started their work. It didn’t take long for one of the kids to see the sign. There was a giggle, and then a laugh as more kids saw the sign. Then there was silence as they realized what it really meant. I went to the front of the class, and told them what I observed the day before.

The rest of the day the students took a fraction of a second to check the time, and then got back to their work.

The was a good enough analogy that it was a chapter in my book, ” Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World,” which you can check out at: (Click on bookstore at the top.)

One of the saddest remarks I have ever  heard is, “my friend died alone.” I am not sad about the remark itself, but the idea that someone thought a person passed on  alone.

As Christians we now that God is always there with us wherever we go. He is also with us during our last moments as we pass on to be with Him.

The thing we need to ask ourselves, is, “Time will pass, will I?” Have we committed ourselves to the LORD and know for sure that we will pass on to be with the LORD when it is our time?

It is a simple test that even I was able to understand as an old retired teacher. All we have to do is answer one question Jesus is asking: “Do you believe in Me, and do you give your heart to me?”

It isn’t as pass or fail test. It is a pass on, or not pass on, test.

Do you have the peace in your heart knowing that you are right with the Lord, and are ready for tomorrow what ever it brings?

Take an inventory of your life and see where you stand. If you aren’t sure, then it is not right yet. You will have full assurance, if you simply confess to the Lord you sins., and ask for Him to forgive you.

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People go to Church on Sundays, and Worship Satan on Monday

Without Jesus, You Don’t Have a Prayer


For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.

John 3:16


When I went to church yesterday, it was exciting to see so many people. We had 2,565 people there. It was Easter Sunday. We normally have about 1,000 on an average Sunday. My question is: Where are the people the rest of the year? They are only there at Easter because they have accepted the ways of this world and have become churchgoers and not church members. That is what they do: Go to church at Easter.

They have Easter egg hunts at home. They have big family gatherings, but they do not know the meaning behind Easter. They want the Easter bunny to fill their baskets to bring joy to their faces, caring nothing about having Jesus in their hearts.

            As we go through life, some think they can survive on their own without Jesus. They conform to the world around them and think that life is going to be kind to them, because they are “good” people, and surely (I know—don’t call me Shirley!) they will be blessed in their “afterlife.” But when they have finished the race, and face the judgment, God will say, “I do not know you because you rejected My Son.”

We must learn that without Jesus, we do not have a prayer of being with Him in heaven. We have to go the extra mile and let Him into our lives. Then the time of judgment will be different. When we finish the race, God will say, “Come in, My good and faithful servant.”

When it was time for Jesus to be crucified for our sins, He went through many hardships. Others before Him (like Joseph) and after Him (like Paul) also faced hardships. The similarities show that whenever we go through trials, some good can come of it, if we stay close to God and keep the faith.

Joseph went to find his brothers because his father asked him to go to Shechem to look for them. They were out tending the sheep. He didn’t find them there, and asked where his brothers had gone. He was told his brothers had gone on to Dothan. He could have stopped when he got to Shechem. He had gone as far as his father had told him to, but he went the “extra mile” (actually about twenty) to find his brothers in Dothan. When he found them, what did they do? They threw him into a deep hole called a cistern, tore off his robe and then sold him into slavery. The robe was a richly ornamented one that his father had given Joseph. His brothers hated Joseph, so they betrayed their own brother.

Paul spent many years being persecuted, facing torture and spending time in prison, but he never wavered. He continued to preach all over the world of his time, telling people about salvation. He was a loyal servant of God. He kept on serving the Lord. Even though he had many hardships, he finished the race.

Jesus could have saved Himself when He was put on the cross. But He allowed the soldiers to pound the nails into his hands and feet, crushing the bones and letting the crimson blood flow to the ground. He could have sent for a thousand angels when He was hanging on the cross and have them destroy the people. Instead He said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” He said He was thirsty, when He could have opened up the skies and let rainwater fall into His mouth. Instead the soldiers gave him bitter-tasting vinegar wine. He could have set Himself free at anytime, but instead He said, “It is finished!”

The soldiers took Jesus’ robe off just like the brothers did to Joseph. It also was a specially made robe with no seams in it. It was woven in one piece from the top. The soldiers threw dice to see who would win the robe. It must have been Jesus’ finest possession. It was a great “collector’s” item for the soldiers.

Jesus walked all over the country teaching about salvation. In the end He was persecuted, beaten, marched through a mock trial and put to death. He went through many of the things Paul went through.

Yes, Jesus could have saved Himself that day. He could have done many things to stop what was happening to Him, but He went on to walk the extra mile. He went on to finish the race. He went on to the cross to pay the supreme sacrifice for our sins.

Have you walked the extra mile? Is Jesus your Lord? Will you finish the race with Him and live an eternal life of joy? He paid the price for the ticket to get you in. He wanted to die for you because He wants you to be in heaven with Him.


That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

Romans 10:9


Further adventures

Study the book of Romans. Read it to see how wonderful life can be when we follow God. Also find some books that tell about the life of Jesus. Here are two I recommend, both by Philip Yancey: The Jesus I Never Knew and What’s So Amazing About Grace? Yancey digs deeply into the life of Jesus and shows us much more about Jesus than we could ever understand on our own.


Something to ponder

Isn’t it funny how someone can say, “I believe in God,” on Sunday, but on Monday follow Satan (who, by the way, also “believes” in God)?

* Excerpt from: Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World

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